Am i going crazy or is my husband trying to move my mother in law in with us?
Mother in Law Mammas Boy Blues Asked: Am i going crazy or is my husband trying to move my mother in law in with us?
Two weeks ago, my mother in law came over and is still there. I don't want to live with my mother in law. (We tried this once before without my consent) I feel as though she doesn't care anything about our marriage, shes needy and disrespectful and uses emotional blackmail to get my husband to do what she wants.(sidenote…she told my husband one day that she would kill herself if she thought God wouldnt punish her for it) What kind of mother would tell her child something like that???
We have been married almost 2 yrs now. When she moved in with us we were newlyweds and hadlived together for 2 Months. He didn't talk to me about it at all. He moved her in a room off of our garage area. She did not care for me at the time. She would use the kitchen and bathroom and as she and he would say, "stay out of my way? (In my house). I was absolutely miserable. No privacy at all and really didnt feel at peace there…She lost her job two years ago and subsequently became homeless…I can understand him wanting to help his mother but I feel as though he enables her and she always has some kind of issue. He and I got into a really bad falling out one day which landed him in jail, and the following day, I ended up putting her out, because she was talking to me like she was talking to a dog! My husband and I worked things out after that and since then we purchase a home I love it..
The new year came and we were off to a good start until two weeks ago…She came over and never left. She's bringing more crap into the house and when I asked him if she is "trying to move back in here here" he tells me "no" I havent said much but my attitude is one of disguist and frustration. I feel as though he and she have issues and Im sick of it. I dont want to live with her and I told him if he feels like he needs to take care of her and disrespect me by trying to move her in without talking with me about the issue, he can just move with her….When I come home from work now she goes in the bedroom shuts the door and wont come out…I asked him if he talked with her about finding a place and he said that she gets upset because she cant live anywhere without a job….well, she cant live with us! I would think finding some housing would be a priority for her instead of putting her burdens on us…were struggling too….She's note some sweet old lady at all. I find her to be a hot mess! She 56 with a Masters Degree and able bodied.She always on the phone or computer and I think that if she's not happy, nobody is. She doesnt like me because they had some Mammas boy stuff going on…Am I wrong for not wanting her to live with us?
I'd be more worried about the fact that your husband got his mother in the house without talking to you first.
You're not wrong, she sounds like poison.
Time to get out of the marriage, I think. But get yourself a REALLY GOOD LAWYER first.
You need to move out, get rid of him, find yourself a REAL man who puts YOU first and isn't still breast feeding from him Mommy.
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