When is my husband gonna start treating me like a wife?
Asked: When is my husband gonna start treating me like a wife?
We've been together for quite a while now and it seems that my husband doesn't know how to treatme like a wife.What I mean is this.He had a daughter when we first met and I had two sons from my first marriage and I told him that I never thought I would ever find myself with a guy with kids.He took that to mean that I wanted to be the only one to come in with baggage.
It's summer time and the kids are out of school.They have their weekly chores that they do but for some reason his daughter gets to slide on hers while he's always on my sons about things.Yesterday when I got home from work I noticed that the trash hadn't been taken out.It was his daughter's job.She was laying in the bed sleep when I mentioned it to him. He walked into her room then walked back out.Now, in his defense he's told me that I'm one of the two adults in the house and if I see something wrong it's my job to correct it but I didn't feel like going in there and making his daughter get up.
Last night he bought my dog a new collar and he told my son to go put the collar on the dog.20 minutes later we both walk into the living room and my son was lounging on the sofa watching TV and the collar was in the same position.He ripped my son a new one.My son felt that he would get to it when he did but my husband said that when he, as a parent, tells him to do something he means he wants it done right then not later.I feel as if I take a back seat when it comes to his daughter so that's why I don't say anything to her about her chores.
When we are having a conversation why doesn't he understand that I want to be heard.The funny thing is that he'll sit and listen to me vent for 20 minutes then when he starts talking I don't like what he says and I need to correct him or or two sentences into what he's saying.He says I never let him get his opinion out but most of the time his opinion is wrong.
When is he gonna start treating me like a wife?
Answers:
Ask yourself, "Where do I go from here?"You know what you have to do.Now go do it.
perhaps never — and longer you leave the issue untouched — the harder it is going to be to get your relationship back on track — you need to sit him down one on one and have a serious disscussion about where this is all headed — good luck
1)You tell him you should be the only one with kids and you never wanted to get with a guy with kids.2)You won't discipline his daughter even though he's given you permission.3)He got on your son for not doing something he told him to do and you took offense to that.4)You won't let him talk.5)You think you are entitled to what ever he buys.
Wow, what a catch.I wouldn't treat you like a wife either.
You can tell somethings wrong by the way you say, his daughter, my sons, my dog. You are together now so everythinng belongs to you to! Watch this film, its called, 'yours, mines, and ours' its about to single parents, one with 12 kids the other with 8 and how they get together and make it work.
Tell him how you feel, dont be afraid to ask his daighter to do something, you obviosuly dont want h to dislike you but your sons will be annoyed if everyone is cracking down on them and not the other girl!
Dont be afraid, whats holding you back? You shouldboth be buying school suppli for everyone not just your 'own' kids!
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